October 11, 2016

"You Don't Need That Muck on Your Face"


'You don't need that muck on your face!' Do you know how many times I have been faced with this sentence? I don't; I've lost count. Although I assume it's intended as a light-hearted comment or perhaps even a compliment, I find it pretty offensive. Let me tell you why...

I do not seek, nor do I need, the validation of others to reinforce my own self-worth. When I step out the house on a Saturday night, after spending an hour doing my makeup, I know I look bomb as f*ck. You don't think so? Never mind. I don't know about you, but I was always taught: 'if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.' Now, I really do not appreciate your sarcastic questions about how long it took me to do my makeup, how much a particular lipstick cost me (no, that is not extortionate in the world of makeup, and no, it was not a 'waste of money' ...as you can see, I'm clearly wearing it right now, and that has enabled you to make this stupid comment to begin with!?) or how many makeup wipes it would take to remove my face. You prefer the natural look? Good for you. It really isn't your place to infer your beliefs about appearances on me.

Personally, I'm not so into the plain-Jane, rosy-cheeked look. Do you know how many products I wore on my face tonight? I'll tell you; tonight, I wore: simple moisturiser and NYX pore filler to prime my face, followed by: Kat Von D foundation, Urban Decay Naked concealer, MAC transparent setting powder, MAC soft and gentle highlighter, Max Factor blusher, Anastasia Beverly Hills dipbrow, Makeup Revolution iconic eyeshadows, L'Oreal Telescopic mascara on top and Seventeen Falsifieye HD mascara on the bottom lashes, Urban Decay All Nighter setting spray, Rimmel London exaggerate Eastend Snob lip liner and MAC's Velvet Teddy lipstick. That may seem like a lot to you, but applied in the right way, they're simply ingredients for a more confident me

Now, I'm no makeup artist, please do not mistake me here; I doubt very much I could successfully apply makeup to anybody else's face, ever. But, I spent the majority of my teenage years and my ongoing early twenties experimenting with brands, products and tools, and working out what works for me. The result? I've got this. I can blend my own makeup to perfection, give the illusion of perfect skin (you'd honestly be shocked if you saw what's underneath, but you never do, so you assume I don't 'need' this muck on my face) and feel 100% confident when I step outside my front door. And that is how I feel. Confident. 100%. So do you know how unbelievably frustrating and upsetting it is when you make any comment other than 'wow, you look amazing!' in reference to my makeup? 

I am fully aware that I do not 'need' these products on my face. Yes, that's right, products, not 'muck.' When I am rushed, I am more than happy to set out without a full face of makeup. I can look at my makeup-less face in the mirror and still recognise my best features, and be happy with myself. I don't rely on makeup to form the basis of my identity. I understand that makeup is a luxury. 

I wear makeup because, for me, it has become a hobby. I genuinely enjoy applying it, discovering new products and application tips and creating different looks. I wear it because it makes me confident that I can face the day. I wear it because in a week, I often used to fit in: 35 hours of work, 8 hours of city commuting, 8 hours of lectures/seminars in different mind-boggling areas of law, 1 hour of extra-curricular reading/prep work, undefined time maintaining a long-term relationship and whatever's left of my week socialising with friends, and that can leave me looking tired and drained. Instead of moaning constantly about how tired I was/am and how hard I've been working (I wish you'd see that!), I cover it all up perfectly so my face says 'hello! I'm awake and I'm happy to be here!' Ugh. Most of the time I just want to crawl back into bed and forget I have any responsibilities at all, but doing my makeup each morning makes me ready to face anything the day throws at me. 

Some people will never understand makeup at all and, quite honestly, I think that's their loss. Makeup can do wonders. But I appreciate that everyone has a different outlook on appearances, and I respect that. So, please, do me a favour and respect other people's decisions to wear makeup, to spend good money on it and to be proud of their appearance. 
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  1. This post was fantastic, I hate it when people are so judgmental and tell you their opinions on makeup wear, it has nothing to do with anyone what you put on your face.

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! Confession... I wrote it one night after I'd been out to dinner and somebody made a rude remark about my lipstick and amount of makeup I was wearing. I was fuming at the time, so I was a little worried that this post would come across and angry and bitter, ha!

      I completely agree. It's entirely up to the individual whether they wear makeup or not/how much they wear. I believe as long as you feel confident, that's all that matters!

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  2. I agree with this post 100%, everyone should be entitled to do what they want with their face/body. Personally, I have been on the opposite side, when someone asked me in a condescending manner: Oh, you like to look natural?Great!

    Sometimes I spend an hour to do my makeup and sometimes I just apply mascara and that`s it. Why does is bother anyone else what I decide to do with my face?

    http://www.beautynerd.co.uk

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    1. Glad you agree! :) I can completely empathise with you there as well. I worked in retail for five years and rarely saw the point of wearing makeup to work, in an environment where I was physically working. I was frequently told I looked ill/upset/might scare customers; even if it was only meant in a jokey way, it still wasn't nice to hear. You really can't win, can you?! I hope you take other people's comments with a pinch of salt and just do what makes you feel happy and confident!

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  3. I can't believe people can judge others for their love of wearing makeup. I love wearing it and, honestly, I don't care what others will think about it. Great post.
    Nina
    Nina's Style Blog

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    1. Good for you! It's nobody else's business xx

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  4. I never understand why some people think it's ok to judge others. I think everyone has the thing they love to spend money on and devote time to and that's fine as long as no one is getting hurt or offended. Makeup should be the least of any one elses problem!

    Danielle | www.FollowMyGut.com <3

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    1. Precisely! People don't realise that for a lot of us, makeup is more than superficial... it's actually a hobby!xx

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  5. I love the name of this post - reminds me of my mum! But this is a great topic to address and really interesting - love this post!

    Charlotte x

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  6. This is such a refreshing, honest post that tackles a lot of things people in the beauty blogging community / make-up industry are definitely sick and tired of hearing. Very well-written as well!

    Tia | The 10am Blog

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment. Glad you enjoyed the post as much as I enjoyed writing it xx

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  7. I hate how some people assume those that wear makeup must lack intelligence *eye roll* xx

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    1. Agreed! Best to just laugh it off sometimes and less the ignorant remain ignorant as we flourish xx

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  8. This is so true! Also, if I've spent a small fortune on makeup, I don't want to look as if I'm not wearing any! Thanks for writing this!!
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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    1. That's exactly what I always think and is one of the reasons I refuse to spend £30 on a foundation thats described as 'sheer' haha xx

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  9. I hate it when people say that! I'm currently having a Fresh Sugar Rose Lip Treatment giveaway and will have a new giveaway every Friday with products from UD, Too Faced, Fresh, Hourglass, Buxom and more. You should come check it out!
    Https://www.bluecanyoncorner.wordpress.com

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  10. Praise the full face of makeup! Hate when people tell me I don't need it, my skin looks fine etc I want to wear it and I will!

    Danielle's Beauty Blog

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  11. Loved this post and your totally right about all these points! I hate when people say anything in the direction of why do you use so much make-up and the list goes on and on! In all honesty I don't even use that much but when I do it's more seen as a work of art to me. Make-up is hard to do right and I've started to master certain techniques and I find it fun, exciting and I love experimenting, just like most girls my age, younger and older. I go days when make-up isn't even a priority and I will go out bare faced but on the days I do want to use make-up which is around 6 days out of the week I love it! It doesn't make me feel any more confident but it does give you that buzz playing around with beautiful shadows and deep lipsticks for Autumn. I wouldn't see it as vanity it's went on since the Egyptian era, make-up has always been a huge part of life and why not experiment? I just don't understand when people say or ask about why do you use make-up or related topics, it just doesn't make sense to me as it's down to personal preference and doesn't necessarily mean your not confident going without or feel you "need" to use make-up everyday to look beautiful! Hopefully this makes sense ha,ha and beautiful blog xxx

    Jenny | Krystel Couture

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    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment! Makeup definitely makes me feel more confident, but perhaps that's because I have spot-prone skin or because I'm less happy with other features of mine, like my teeth. I also have days where makeup isn't a priority and I step out completely bare-faced, but I love playing with makeup and glitters etc. and don't see the big fuss!xx

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  12. Loved reading this. Please check out my ultimate guide to visiting a hairdresser!

    Kisses xo | From Aliona With Love

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    Twitter @alionawithlove

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  13. Hey Laura, nice share. I've enjoyed reading your blog post. Actually I like to put my own favorite makeup items on my face. I don't think what people think or says about my makeup wear.

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